Can ex-girlfriends and girlfriends get along?
Can they tolerate each other enough to make decent conversation?
Could they EVER be....friends?
I've pondered this many a time. I think it depends on the situation. It's not easy to think kindly of the girl that had your boys heart once upon a time ago. Even if you don't know her personally, it's natural to show your teeth when it comes to competition. There's that girl again, she's in town. She drug his heart through the dirt, treated him like shit, and kind of screwed him over. When you learn of these things you grow to dislike her. You might even...start to hate her. Even if you've never met her.
Is that fair?
What if you're the ex? Would you blame a girl for not liking you for that reason? You see her, she seems nice. But she doesn't like you merely because you had a relationship with her current love interest. You can't really blame her for that, can you? What if she hated you though? What if she never spoke a word to you, but hated you with a severe passion? How would you feel about that? What if she was told all sorts of things about you that weren't true at all? What if the boy she's with now is lying? Of course she'd side with him. Even if he was the real douche, the real slut-not you.
These are both hypothetical situations, but they stir up alot of ideas. I admit that I dislike an ex-girlfriend, and I haven't spoken a word to her in my life. At the same time, I'm pretty sure I'm a disliked ex as well. And it feels unfair to me, to be judged solely on what some guy said about me.
This gets me thinking... What do you people think? Is it right to dislike someone based on what other people say? Take love, and boyfriend/girlfriend junk out of the whole equation.
Should you judge an individual before you get to know them firsthand? Most of us would want to say no, but of course we all have. It doesn't matter what context it's in, what situation, or what setting. Pre-conceived opinions are wrong. But they're going to happen anyway, weather we can help it or not. It's human nature.
So what can be done about it? Maybe if we make ourselves more aware of our judgmental behaviors, we can catch ourselves when it happens.
I think there's enough irrational hatred in the world, and not enough irrational love. So the fuck what if she's an ex-girlfriend? Step above the norm and expected and try to love her anyway :] Or at least try not to hate her :P
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You mean you're the type of person to take it *personally*. Adverbs require an -ly. And "weather" is not interchangeable with "whether". GET IT RIIIIIGGGHHHTTT!!! XD
ReplyDeleteExes are just supposed to go away, that's what I think. I could never deal with them, nor would I want to. I think staying friends with exes is creepy and strange in almost all situations, not to mention hurtful and unpleasant.
I agree to a point. It's easier if exes stay away, especially if it makes you feel uncomfortable. I know that more than anything. It's really something to discuss with your significant other too.
ReplyDeleteAudrey, you poop!! the title's also the title of a Breathe Carolina song. Blame them for mistyped adverbs XD
I agree with your comment, Aftershock. It really depends on the situation. Sometimes it's just easier to avoid eachother. It depends on on the boyfriend, are they still friends? or not? if they never talk then the ex and gf shouldn't need to either. It's truly situational.
ReplyDeleteMaybe if your other half sees them as a mistake it's ok for you to do so as well. Nobody can change the past, but we can make fun of it =p
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